Rebound

In 2023, I made up my mind to become Catholic. I added “Simon” in front of my name, so I became Simon Parno. It was also reasonable for my father to take a new name, and he became Lukas Bong Ket Tjhiung. At that time, I was unable to earn any stable income, even though I had worked as a shopkeeper from a very young age until now, at 46. I have a wife and two children to support, but the only income I managed to make was from online hailing jobs—which was far from enough.

After six months of struggling with little to no income, my wife decided to work with her friend as a helper in the evenings, from 4 p.m. until 11 p.m., to help cover our children’s expenses. I had no choice but to let her do it for the sake of our family. During that difficult period, Hauhau introduced me to the property world. At first, I was never interested in it, but over time I realized it could be a solution for earning more and easing my burdens. Even though it was new to me, it slowly gave me peace of mind and convinced me that property could be my path to financial stability.

Before anything else, I had to pay the fee of IDR 200K to become a proper broker with a license. I acknowledged that moment when my high school friend Landak came back to his hometown in Pontianak to see his beloved family.

In the beginning, the first few months were full of doubt. I wasn’t convinced about myself at all because my mindset wasn’t there yet. I even remember refusing to meet Hauhau when he wanted to introduce me to the broker world. That action was reported in our WA Petrus group, and my friends scolded me for being so stubborn—hahaha 🤣. But still, I told myself, I’ll try, I’ll try to get into the vibe of becoming an agent.

Week by week, month by month, I pushed myself to stick to the principle of listing houses every day. Slowly, I adjusted to the property world, and eventually, I started to believe in it. My first closing with a fellow agent truly changed my life. Even though it was just a small rental fee, it all began from someone simply seeing my WA status and asking me if there was a house for rent. I quickly checked someone’s listing, made the connection, and it turned into a 2-year rental deal.

Three months later, I hit the jackpot with a big closing that brought in a significant sum of money. I felt so proud. The following month, I had another closing—not as big, but still meaningful and worth it.

Those two months were a real relief for me, especially since I managed to achieve high-income closings during that time. It was the moment I truly began to acknowledge myself in the property world. Of course, it’s not a smooth ride—I know I’ll be facing many challenges ahead—but from now on, I feel a little more confident. I’m still adjusting myself step by step, but this marks the end of my first achievement.

Number #1!

Bangkit Kembali

Pada tahun 2023, saya memutuskan untuk menjadi Katolik. Saya menambahkan nama “Simon” di depan nama saya, sehingga saya menjadi Simon Parno. Ayah saya juga mengambil nama baru, dan ia menjadi Lukas Bong Ket Tjhiung. Pada saat itu, saya tidak memiliki penghasilan tetap, meskipun saya sudah bekerja sebagai penjaga toko sejak kecil hingga usia saya 46 tahun sekarang. Saya punya istri dan dua anak yang harus saya nafkahi, tetapi satu-satunya penghasilan yang saya dapat hanyalah dari pekerjaan ojek online—yang jelas sangat tidak mencukupi.

Setelah enam bulan berjuang dengan penghasilan yang hampir tidak ada, istri saya memutuskan untuk bekerja bersama temannya sebagai pembantu pada malam hari, dari jam 4 sore sampai 11 malam, demi membantu menutupi kebutuhan anak-anak kami. Saya tidak punya pilihan selain merelakannya demi keluarga. Pada masa sulit itu, Hauhau memperkenalkan saya pada dunia properti. Awalnya saya sama sekali tidak tertarik, tetapi lama-kelamaan saya menyadari bahwa dunia properti bisa menjadi solusi untuk mendapatkan penghasilan lebih dan meringankan beban saya. Meskipun hal itu benar-benar baru bagi saya, perlahan saya merasa lebih tenang dan mulai yakin bahwa properti bisa menjadi jalan menuju kestabilan finansial saya.

Sebelum memulai, saya harus membayar biaya Rp. 200 ribu untuk menjadi broker resmi dengan lisensi. Saya mengingat momen itu ketika teman SMA saya, Landak, pulang ke kampung halamannya di Pontianak untuk menemui keluarga tercintanya.

Pada awalnya, bulan-bulan pertama penuh dengan keraguan. Saya sama sekali tidak yakin pada diri sendiri karena pola pikir saya belum siap. Saya bahkan ingat pernah menolak bertemu dengan Hauhau ketika ia ingin memperkenalkan saya ke dunia broker. Tindakan itu kemudian dilaporkan di grup WA Petrus, dan teman-teman saya menegur saya karena dianggap terlalu keras kepala—hahaha 🤣. Tapi tetap saja, saya berkata pada diri saya, saya akan coba, saya akan coba menyesuaikan diri untuk menjadi seorang agen.

Minggu demi minggu, bulan demi bulan, saya berusaha konsisten dengan prinsip untuk terus membuat listing rumah setiap hari. Perlahan-lahan, saya mulai menyesuaikan diri dengan dunia properti, dan akhirnya saya mulai percaya pada jalan ini. Closing pertama saya bersama seorang agen lain benar-benar mengubah hidup saya. Walaupun hanya berupa komisi kecil dari rumah kontrakan, semuanya berawal dari seseorang yang melihat status WA saya dan bertanya apakah ada rumah untuk disewa. Saya segera mengecek daftar rumah orang lain, menghubungkannya, dan akhirnya menghasilkan kontrak sewa selama 2 tahun.

Tiga bulan kemudian, saya mendapat jackpot dengan closing besar yang membawa sejumlah uang yang signifikan. Rasanya sangat membanggakan. Bulan berikutnya, saya mendapat closing lagi—meski tidak sebesar sebelumnya, tetap saja berarti dan sangat berharga.

Dua bulan itu benar-benar menjadi kelegaan bagi saya, terutama karena saya berhasil mendapatkan closing dengan penghasilan tinggi. Saat itulah saya mulai benar-benar mengakui diri saya di dunia properti. Tentu jalannya tidak selalu mulus—saya tahu akan ada banyak tantangan di depan—tetapi mulai saat ini, saya merasa sedikit lebih percaya diri. Saya masih terus menyesuaikan diri langkah demi langkah, namun inilah penutup dari pencapaian pertama saya.

Original version:

Its was 2023 i Made up my mind to be khatolic dude with a name in front of Parno turned to be Simon Parno its was reasanable for my father also become Lukas bong ket ttjhiung , at time i was not Able to earn income at all after a long perioud of being a shop keeper from my youngest years till im 46 right now ! I have a wife 2 childrens need to feeed , the only income i Made is hailing online earning its was totally not enought for sure , after 6 months of repettion life in a non income dude my wife decided to work with her friend as a helper in the night from 4 pm till 11 pm thats its for lighten my children expensesis , from that reason i got no choices beside let her do for good Familly , during that moment hauhau already ignite me in property world , I Was never fond on it but turn out to be a solution for me to earn more money to enlighten my burden , even throught its can relief me in peace of mind , but for me its slowly convince me of earning money in the world of property

Well before that you have to pay 200 ribu fee for becoming a proper broker with a licences , i aknowledge myself its when my high school friend landak is coming home town to see he beloved family in ptk , Then be it , the early month was full of dout because i was never been so convinse about my self  because my mind set still not in it because before that i still not get in it yet , i remembered i refused to see hauhau in order to introduction to the broker world , n my action was reported to grup that i was to be mad by my follow friend in WA Petrus group hahaha 🤣, stubbern i am, but i ll try ill try to get in vibe in becoming an agen , i went wheel by weeks month by months n sticking to the principal in listing houses everdays  and so on , until i have adjusted my vibe in this world of property make me convinced when the time i had my closing with fellow agen , its really change my life even throught i had a small fee of renting home its surely just see my WA status and asked me Its there a home for rent , I Quickly use my konsisten to cek somebody list and suddenly deal with this house they rented for 2 years n then 3 month later i got a big jackpot which its a big closing that its a rented a big sums of money 1 feel proud n the next month i got another closing this time is average not much but it worthed 

Well in those two months was a relief for me not for mention i was become the high income closing for those month , n i acknowledge myself in property , its not a smooth ride but im gonno be facing alot of problem in property world to come, but i feel conviden a little bit from now on , i kind a adjusting my self first … end of my achievementt

A Birthday Trip To Remember

The way it started, I just couldn't help feeling that our trip this round would be different. I mean, we woke up quite early only to be greeted by a message from a friend, bearing the news or her hospitalized husband. It had taken a turn for the worse. As the only one who was around before dawn, I felt obliged to respond as her sounding board.

In all honesty, I don't know if I was any helpful. What I really felt was the mood set by the conversation. The birthday trip we were having suddenly became sombre. It was like, while we were about the celebrate a birthday, one life was probably going to end on the other side. It couldn't get more extreme than this. 

So off we went to Jakarta. The news trickled in bit by bit, each one worse than the last. In the midst of all this, I celebrated my daughter's birthday and mine, binge-watched Cobra Kai, met a friend who does chiropractic. Given my ailing friend's condition, I couldn't shake the feeling that he might pass away any time. It was like, would it happen on National Day? Or on my birthday? Or while we were flying back to Singapore? 

But no, it happened the morning after, when I was getting ready for work. Just like that, a life ended. Two things came to my mind. The first one was George Harrison's life flows on within you and without you. How it rang true. The world goes on. It doesn't stop, almost as if it doesn't care. We're really only very small.

The other was Hamilton's the World Was Wide Enough:

Death doesn't discriminate

Between the sinners and the saints

It takes and it takes and it takes

It was a weird birthday experience, really. I can't say it wasn't a happy one, but it was certainly unforgettable. To me, this was the only birthday when my wife and I ever asked, "what if this happened to us?" It was a stark reminder of our mortality, but also a revelation that, for me, it has been a life well lived. I intend to keep it that way.

The birthday celebration.

Hari Ulang Tahun Yang Tak Terlupakan 

Dari awal sudah terasa bahwa liburan kali ini terasa berbeda. Di pagi buta saya tertegun saat membaca kabar tentang seorang teman yang sedang dirawat di rumah sakit. Kondisinya yang sempat membaik tiba-tiba menjadi parah dan koma. Sebagai satu-satunya orang yang sudah membaca WhatsApp sebelum fajar menyingsing, saya tergerak untuk merespon pertanyaan istrinya yang sedang gundah. 

Jujur saya katakan bahwa saya tidak tahu apakah respon saya ini membantu. Yang justru terasa adalah nuansa setelah percakapan usai. Liburan ini jadi terkesan sedih. Di satu sisi kita hendak merayakan ulang tahun, namun di sisi lain, sebuah kehidupan mungkin akan berakhir. Benar-benar ekstrim. 

Kita lantas terbang ke Jakarta. Kabar selanjutnya pun terbaca, semakin lama semakin buruk. Selagi semua ini terjadi, saya berpesta, menonton serial Cobra Kai, lalu bertemu teman yang membantu meluruskan tulang belakang. Di dalam benak saya selalu terngiang bahwa teman yang sedang koma ini bisa meninggal setiap waktu. Apakah akan terjadi di hari kemerdekaan Singapura? Atau hari ulang tahun saya? Atau saat kita dalam penerbangan pulang ke Singapura? 

Namun apa yang saya cemaskan ternyata terjadi di pagi berikutnya, selagi saya bersiap-siap untuk berangkat kerja. Dan hanya seperti itu, satu kehidupan pun berakhir. Dua hal langsung terpikirkan oleh saya. Yang pertama adalah lirik George Harrison yang berbunyi, life flows on within you and without you. Sungguh benar adanya. Dunia terus berjalan, tidak berhenti, seakan-akan tidak peduli. Kita hanyalah setitik debu. 

Yang satunya lagi adalah lagu The World Was Wide Enough dari Hamilton:

Death doesn't discriminate 

(Kematian tidak membedakan)

Between the sinners and the saints

(Antara orang suci dan pendosa)

It takes and it takes and it takes

(Kematian hanya merenggut dan merenggut)

Pengalaman ulang tahun kali ini sungguh tidak lazim. Saya tidak mengatakan bahwa kesannya tidaklah gembira, tapi yang jelas tidak terlupakan. Bagi saya, ini adalah sekali-kalinya ultah di mana saya dan istri bertanya, "bagaimana kalau ini terjadi pada kita?" Kejadian ini adalah peringatan tentang realita kehidupan kita sebagai manusia. Kendati begitu, lewat introspeksi ini saya juga menyadari bahwa sejauh ini hidup saya sudah dijalani sesuai dengan panggilan hati. Saya akan usahakan agar tetap seperti itu. 

Book Review: Waxing On

I like Cobra Kai long before I watched the Karate Kid. But as someone from the 80s, even a boy from a place as remote as Pontianak had heard of the infamous crane kick. Yes, it was that popular, though allegedly illegal, if one could trust Johnny Lawrence, haha. Now that there was a book written by the Karate Kid himself, of course I had to read it!

And what a great and easy reading the book is. It reminded me of what Ringo said. To paraphrase his words, he has lived well into his 80s, but most people are only interested in that 8 years of his life as a Beatle. In the case of Ralph Macchio, the career span is even shorter: he is forever known as the Karate Kid. Not even My Cousin Vinny can change this.

Ralph knew and he acknowledged this through his book, Waxing On. Even the title was a homage to Mr. Miyagi's teaching. And it focused on all things Karate Kid, with a taste of Cobra Kai. I like how he dedicated each chapter to Pat Morita,  Elisabeth Shue and William Zabka. The one with Pat was especially endearing. He was truly Mr. Miyagi. 

Now, back to the fact that even people from Pontianak had heard of the Karate Kid, it was even more impressive to read how Ralph's further elaboration on this. The movie was up there, together with Rocky, Ghostbusters, Back to the Future, becoming part of the pop culture that we know and love. Okay, even if you hadn't watched them, you'd at least know about them!

Then of course there was the birth of Cobra Kai series. Its origin story was hilarious. It was the unlikeliest story, but yet that's how it happened, with a little help from How I Met Your Mother. 

If you like the Karate Kid and its expanded Miyagiverse, this is clearly a book for you. It's both humble and funny. It's also a story of acceptance. People love having options, but sometimes we're defined by the one thing we did right in life. And that's how it is for Ralph Macchio. He might not like it at first, but he has made peace with the fact that we'll always remember him as Daniel LaRusso...

Ulasan Buku: Waxing On

Saya suka Cobra Kai jauh sebelum saya menonton Karate Kid. Namun sebagai seseorang yang berasal dari dekade 80an, bahkan bocah dari tempat terpencil seperti Pontianak pun pernah mendengar tentang tendangan bangau yang termasyhur. Ya, jurus tersebut sedemikian populernya pada saat itu, meskipun disinyalir ilegal kalau Johnny Lawrence bisa dipercaya, haha. Sekarang, setelah saya tahu ada buku yang ditulis oleh pemeran Karate Kid, tentu saja saya harus membacanya.

Dan ini adalah buku yang gampang dibaca dan mengingatkan saya pada perkataan Ringo. Kira-kira begini kalimatnya: meski dia sudah hidup 80 tahun lebih, orang-orang hanya tertarik dengan delapan tahun hidupnya sebagai anggota the Beatles. Dalam konteks Ralph Macchio, karirnya lebih singkat lagi: dia selamanya dikenal sebagai Karate Kid. Bahkan sukses My Cousin Vinny pun tidak bisa mengubah hal ini. 

Ralph tahu dan mengakui hal ini lewat bukunya, Waxing On. Bahkan judulnya pun mengacu pada ajaran Mr. Miyagi. Buku ini menjabarkan segala sesuatu tentang Karate Kid, termasuk Cobra Kai. Saya suka caranya yang mempersembahkan masing-masing satu bab untuk Pat Morita, Elisabeth Shue dan William Zabka. Cerita tentang Pat sangat menyentuh. Pat sungguh merupakan Mr. Miyagi yang otentik. 

Nah, kembali ke fakta tentang orang asal Pontianak yang pernah mendengar tentang Karate Kid, sangat berkesan rasanya saat membaca tentang dampak Karate Kid pada dunia lewat sudut pandang Ralph. Film ini setara dengan Rocky, Ghostbusters serta Back to the Future dan menjadi bagian dari budaya pop yang kita kenal baik. Ok, walau anda belum pernah menonton film-film ini, setidaknya anda pasti pernah dengar!

Dan tentu saja Ralph kemudian juga bercerita tentang serial Cobra Kai. Asal mulanya kocak juga. Seperti suatu cerita yang mustahil, tapi memang demikian kisahnya, dengan sedikit bantuan dari How I Met Your Mother. 

Jika anda suka Karate Kid dan cerita yang akhirnya berkembang menjadi Miyagiverse, maka ini adalah buku untuk anda. Kisahnya bersahaja dan lucu. Selain itu, temanya juga tentang penerimaan. Sebagai manusia, kita pasti ingin memiliki pilihan, tapi terkadang kita ditentukan oleh satu hal yang kita lakukan dengan baik dalam hidup ini. Dan inilah yang terjadi pada Ralph Macchio. Pada awalnya dia mungkin tidak suka, tapi sekarang dia sudah berdamai dengan fakta bahwa kita akan selalu mengingatnya sebagai Daniel LaRusso...